Dear Milly and Billy,
I hope this message finds you well. As I reflect on our family dynamics, I feel compelled to address some important issues that have been a source of ongoing tension and misunderstanding. Our major point of contention has always been centered around personal responsibilities and self-improvement.
The Boundary of Personal Responsibilities
From the very beginning, one of the critical boundaries I put my foot down on was the concept of personal responsibilities. I believe that everyone, regardless of their age or role within the family, holds a responsibility for their own growth and self-improvement. This isn’t just about achieving personal success; it’s about fostering a sense of independence, accountability, and self-worth.
Misconceptions and Misunderstandings
In your eyes, it has often seemed like Julie and the kids didn’t want to be here, and you believed that I was somehow forcing them into situations against their will. This fundamental misunderstanding has created a rift between us. The reality, however, is far more nuanced.
Julie and the kids have struggled with taking responsibility for their own improvement. This isn’t a fault or a failing on their part; it’s a challenge that many people face. What’s been particularly difficult is that, instead of supporting me in encouraging them to break free from these cycles, you both have hindered Julie and the kids beyond belief, often enabling their lack of accountability.
Recognizing the Deeper Issues
Over time, it has become apparent to me that this support has never been well-intentioned. According to 20 years of data, Milly, you exhibit traits of a covert malignant narcissist. This disconnection and manipulative behavior have not only affected our interactions but have also pushed us into a rock and a hard place situation, making it incredibly challenging to find common ground.
The Impact of Constant Contradiction
Constantly playing the devil's advocate and contradicting every effort towards improvement creates a toxic environment. It disrupts clear communication, erodes trust, and stifles personal growth. This behavior isn't just frustrating; it's fundamentally damaging to the well-being of everyone involved.
Breaking the Cycle
I want to be clear: my intention has never been to force anyone into anything. Instead, my goal has been to encourage Julie and the kids to take ownership of their lives. Personal responsibility is a cornerstone of personal development, and without it, we remain stagnant, unable to move forward or realize our full potential.
Moving Forward Separately
Given the extent of this disconnection and the manipulative support, I have no hope of ever working together with you to foster the growth and improvement of our family. The consistent undermining and lack of genuine support have made it clear that we are on fundamentally different paths.
Instead, you will become significant figures in my upcoming work, "Narcissists All Around Me: My Chaotic Journey as a Scapegoat," as well as several plays and musicals I am developing, not to mention music albums and videos. These creative endeavors will serve as an outlet for expressing the chaos and challenges I've faced.
Conclusion
Julie and the kids have so much potential, and fostering a sense of personal responsibility is essential for helping them grow into their best selves. Milly and Billy, it’s clear that our approaches and understandings are too divergent to find a path forward together. My focus will remain on encouraging and supporting Julie and the kids in environments that truly foster their growth and independence.